A Taste of Halima

Another inane blog- from a typically atypical smart ass.

Monday, July 04, 2005

Harlot! Scarlet Woman!

I ran into someone that I went to high school with today. She and I were talking, and the question of what I do for a living came up.
I am not a closet sex worker, and besides, I'm stripping right now, not escorting.
She was shocked. "I always thought that you were..." She said. She wasn't able to say it, but I knew what she meant. I live in Indiana, and it is a conservative place. She meant that I have 'loose' values. Yes, people around here worry about such things.
She told me that she'd never let her husband go to one of those places. That I should be ashamed. This attitude is actually common in women, from the feminists to the bible thumping housewives. That sex work, of any kind, demeans the women involved.
I won't say that it can't. Because it can, and it would be one sided to deny that. However, it can also empower women. I feel many times that at work I take advantge of the men far more then they take advantage of me.
I may shimmy around in a g-string. I may rub my tits in strangers' faces. In return I get money. Their money. I don't feel dirty, I don't feel oppressed. No matter how may times I am told that I do, or should, I don't.
Women on the other side of the fence often refuse to consider this, though. It's black and white that because they perceive this to be detrimental, it is.
I felt far more demeaned waitressing at I-hop as a teenager. Talk about letting people walk all over you for nominal tips! That, to me, is bitch work. I am not cut out to work and be bitched at for cold food.
Nuh huh. Not me.
Not that there isn't bitchiness in my industry. Most of it is internal though... other girl's cattiness. Strippers are some of the bitchy women I have ever met, myself included, but I love them for it.
After all, anyone who hairsprays their crotch at work deserves to talk some trash, right?


At 1:35 AM, Blogger danae said...

I totally agree with you. I have so many positives that came from working in the sex industry. And many of the women that I worked for also had more positives then negative come from it.

At 6:00 AM, Blogger W. S. Cross said...

Found you from "ex-milliennial girl," and liked what I saw.

At 1:00 PM, Blogger Halima said...

Danae- it really is a unique world, and one that I can't picture leaving for quite a while.
w.s. cross- welcome, and I'm glad that you like it. I really like what I've seen of ex-milliennial girl so far.

At 7:32 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'd say that some of my best and most supportive friends are those I've met through the sex industry. I'd always felt that I had the upper hand, though. After all, I got to dictate my terms and what I would and wouldn't do. I loved it at the time, and sometimes miss it still. It's true, though, its tough to be in that line of work and be a hoosier too which is why I won't sign my name to this one. :-)

At 6:51 PM, Blogger dave bones said...

great stuff. what is an intentional community?

At 12:19 AM, Blogger Halima said...

Intentional community- kinda like a hippy commune. Only less crazy.


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